For pastors and church leaders

A marriage night for your church. No fee.

Ninety minutes with the married couples in your congregation, using the same material I use in the counseling room, in plain language, with something in every hand on the way out. I've spent years counseling pastors and church staff. This is the part of the work I like most.

Ask about a date What the night looks like
The evening

What actually happens

No altar call, no product pitch from the stage, no sales table at the back. One useful evening that reflects well on the church that hosted it.

  1. Twenty minutes: why marriages drift The pattern underneath most of it, named out loud. This is the part where the room relaxes, because everybody realises they're normal.
  2. Thirty minutes: the four repairs The specific moves that change how a hard conversation goes. Concrete enough to use in the car on the way home.
  3. Twenty-five minutes: couples work the worksheet Together, at their own table. Quiet, unglamorous, and the part people tell me about afterwards.
  4. Fifteen minutes: questions Anonymous cards or open floor, whichever your room prefers.
What I bring
  • The full ninety-minute session, at no charge
  • Printed worksheets for every couple
  • A QR code to a free take-home resource
  • Slides, if your room uses them
What the church provides
  • A room with tables, and childcare if you can
  • Promotion to your own congregation and list
  • A short recorded word from the pastor afterwards, if the night earned it
  • An introduction to two other pastors who might want the same evening
Why there's no fee

I'd rather have the room than the cheque.

I'm building an audience for a book, and an evening with two hundred married couples is worth more to me than a speaking fee. That's the whole trade, said plainly, so nobody has to wonder.

Aaron Delay with his wife and two children in a field at golden hour

Aaron, his wife, and the two people who make him take his own advice.

Who you'd be hosting

A counselor and a minister, in that order and both at once.

I'm an LPC-MHSP in Tennessee and a credentialed minister. My practice sees around ten thousand sessions a year, and a good share of those hours have been with pastors, staff, and the marriages inside churches, which means I know exactly how tired your people are and how little they want another program.

I'm also married with two children, so nothing I say from your stage is advice I get to admire from a distance.

Aaron

Questions pastors ask

The practical bits

Will you recruit our people as counseling clients?

No. I don't take clients from the room, and I won't sell anything from the stage. If someone asks for a referral I'll point them to a provider near them.

How much notice do you need?

Six to eight weeks is comfortable, mostly so your team has time to promote it properly. A poorly promoted night is the only way this goes wrong.

How far will you travel?

Anywhere within a few hours of Memphis without discussion. Further afield, let's talk. Travel costs are the only thing I'd ever ask a church to cover.

How big does the group need to be?

It works from about twenty couples up. Smaller than that and it's better as a conversation than a talk, which I'm also happy to do.

Is it denominationally specific?

No. I'm a credentialed minister and the values are visible, but the content is clinical work in plain language and travels comfortably across traditions.

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